Chances are that if you are reading this you have tried adult dating and are not seeing the success you expected and/or were promised. Don’t worry, you are not alone. To actually see some good results, it takes some patience and effort. Listen, just because you may discredit the world of adult dating because it falls into the “adult” section of the internet, that doesn’t mean that the core principles of success don’t apply. You have to be diligent and don’t take things too personally.
First things first, your profile needs to look good. Don’t do the whole “I want them to want me for me” or “I don’t believe in false advertising” thing. You need someone to be interested before they will ever say or type a word to you. Just because you have a winning personality and you are a successful business person, this doesn’t mean anything unless people are looking in your direction. Whether we like it or not, everything starts with a first impression. That first impression is your picture.
Your picture is the most important part of your profile within any adult dating or standard dating website. Don’t even think about creating a video. It is simply the worst (seeming good) idea for these sites. Adult dating is about first gathering interest before sharing interests. When you start with the ladder, you NEVER gather the former. I am not here to rain on your parade, I’m just here to help out. Your picture should be a picture that you look at and say “wow, I look really good in this picture.” The three main things people overlook are the 1) the quality of the photo is too bad or too good, 2) the lighting in the photo shows too many skin details like blemishes or wrinkles (yeah, I’m talking to guys too) and 3) it captures you in a scene that repulses the viewer. What I mean by the 3rd part is a little different for girls and guys, so I will dedicate a paragraph to each…
Guys, don’t have a bunch of pictures up with other girls. This makes you look like a douchebag. In your head you may think “but it makes me look wanted” which couldn’t be further from the truth. Girls don’t think like that on these sites. Also, don’t have any pictures up with your ex-girlfriend(s). That should go without saying, but I see it all the time. For your profile pic, it should simply be a waist-up (clothed!) shot of you in a nice button down with you smiling. If you have bad teeth, don’t be afraid to make it a closed mouth smile. The other uploaded pictures should show you with some friends (guys and girls when possible) doing things that look fun. Don’t go overboard on pictures from the bar. This that show you out at the lake, running marathon, biking, etc… will make you look exciting. Girls like adventurous guys.
Girls, don’t be afraid to be cute. I know this may go against your instinct to show your true self and post pics of you running a marathon, biking or playing softball but that makes you look too masculine. Even if you enjoy outdoor activities and sports, let your first impression be that of acute and sexy girl just having fun in cocktail dresses and taking pictures with your girlfriends. Don’t have too many pics of you by yourself taking photos with your phone’s camera. Your profile should show off your assets. If you have a great smile, make it a head shot. If you have a great body, don’t be afraid to make it of you in a slim fitting dress. Just don’t get slutty with it. Make sure it’s tasteful.
Overall, you need to put your best foot forward. That’s what creating your profile and more specifically your profile pic is all about. Good luck on all of your adult dating adventures, just make sure you follow my advice and not your own. J