It has been a very crazy few months in the world of adult dating. With hackers exposing the membership details of millions of people on Ashley Madison, the whole world of “hookup” dating has been turned upside down. I’ve been away from writing the last few months because I’ve been working on a lot of other projects but I thought it was time to step out and give my opinion on the whole situation, talk about how it’s changing how people view adult dating, and answer some of the common questions I’ve been getting via email recently.
In case you’ve been living under a rock the last few months, you probably know about the Ashley Madison security breach. To sum things up, some hackers felt morally obligated to destroy the site and the reputation of it’s members. The hacked in and got the email addresses and passwords of all of the members. They then put up a website where you could type in an email address to find out if it was a registered user. There was a cascade of extortion cases reported directly following the incident, two suicides, and as of now there is a class action lawsuit of $567 million dollars again Avid (owners of Ashley Madison) made by the users who’s information was exposed.
With all of this going on, I expected to see updates in the security of sites and user information. Not only have most other sites not done anything, most haven’t even acted like anything was going on. In fact, the affect it’s had on the adult dating business as a whole is peculiarly tiny. That may be because of the nature of Ashley Madison compared to the rest, since so many of these sites aren’t aiming at married guys.
The other piece that was interesting was the fact that there were so many fake female profiles found. They found that only 12,000 of the 5 million registered women were active users. That’s 0.24%. That was even lower than I was expecting. It was both shocking and disheartening.
Some of the common questions I’ve been getting –
1. Are any of these sites actually legit?
2. Can my info be trusted with the big adult dating sites?
– I think so, but Avid Media actually had a pretty secure site before the hacking. The truth is that nothing online (or in the outside world) is 100% safe, so still take steps on your end to protect yourself. I would avoid using my real full name, create a new email for your adult dating profiles, and maybe even have a designated card you use for “discreet” online purchases.
3. How do I know if I’m talking to a girl or a bot online?
– If you’re actually having a back and forth conversation that doesn’t seem too good to be true then you’re probably talking to a real girl.
So, overall if you are looking to get laid online then you stick to the top hookup sites to keep things as safe as possible. I would stay away from Ashley Madison until the dust settles and maybe also stay away from any additional “cheating” or “affair” type sites since these hackers obviously aren’t fans of this particular genre. Just be smart. Good luck!